Well this morning I finally gave up and took it to the shop to have one of my electrican help me out. Even he was frazzled, and that's no good. I left the car and am hoping they will get them lights going. The parking lights are on, high beam is on, just those damn Xenons and AEs aren't! So frustrating. Just wish there was some sort of DIY on line, I search everywhere I found some but nothing that covers HID with AEs in them. So looks like I will have to start the first one ...
And thanks to M3UOND for some tips ...

But hey any of you who read this and have any experience, please still share .... how did you get yours connected?