While your concerns and anger are justified, you're being a bit premature in demanding a new car..
all the problems your experiencing are well documented and known. for future reference: www.e46fanatics.com www.bimmerfest.com www.bimmerforums.com
those 3 boards have a much much larger user base, and as such, you would have found answers to all your questions at any one of the sites., more specifically e46fanatics.com, since everyone on there has an e46... bimmerforums is still largely older models... but every once in awhile will has something useful for the newer models..
Before going to a dealership, because they're all full of idiots, check those boards first, you'll 99% of the time have your answer before going to the dealership, and then you tell them what needs to be fixed.
The coil problem is a well known problem.. some of them had defects, it was just a matter of whether or not you got them.. but if you did, easily replaced with new ones under warranty... there's a tsb on it.
the headlight condensation is normal.. with any car really.. it really depends on the environment you live in... you can easily remove the lense and reseal it yourself as well.. but it will still get condensation because you have cold air on one side, and hot air on the other from the headlight being on..
the rough start/rought idle/ and stall are also well known and documented. It isn't helped by cold temperature.. as you seemed to have noticed from your log entries.. SW39.1 solves this problem. It also fixes the 4k rpm power dip. It just came out and not every dealership has it.
As for the wheels... you weren't specific on what was wrong, but i think you mentioned scratches and gashes.. well.. that's from driving. it's called curb rash and stone/pebble chips.. it's wear and tear. It happens when you have 18 inch wheels with less tire to protect it.